Dear new Mama,
You did it, you absolute rock star.
You birthed a tiny human and they are perfect.
You are amazing.
Now starts the best promotion of your life and your new job is going to be the most rewarding yet. There is lots of training to be done so be prepared to put in the hours, but there is nothing quite like the satisfaction you will receive.
The next few hours, days and weeks are going to be tough, but don’t give up. You are learning on the job and your new baby is learning too. They don’t expect you to know everything on day one, just as they don’t. And as they must learn to breathe, smile, walk and run, you too must learn all the new skills you need to be a Mum.
It’s ok to cry, to feel overwhelmed and scared. But it’s also ok to feel calm, collected and unfazed by this life change. However you feel is perfectly normal for you, and it will change day by day.
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, you don’t have to do this alone. Being a new Mum can be one of the most love filled experiences of your life, but it can also feel the loneliest of times too. There is support out there, even if you need to seek it from outside your friends and family. But do lean on people you love, don’t worry about those you don’t and just take in every second of bonding with that beautiful new baby in your arms.
Don't forget that feeding is feeding and as long as your baby eats, then don’t beat yourself up about how they take it. Breast is best if it’s what’s best for you but if it’s not then that’s ok too. Your baby needs you to be happy and calm and however you make that happen is what is right for you both. Don’t feel pressured by anyone to do anything and just take each day as it comes. Feeding isn’t an easy journey and every day is new, remember your little one is learning too.
Don’t be afraid to say no.
Say no to people visiting, to people holding the baby, to negative advice or unhelpful criticism. Those first few days and weeks are a bubble you will never get back, so keep it positive. After all, it’s your baby and you want to do things your way.
Go out, get fresh air and enjoy it.
Even if it’s just a walk around the block, getting outside can be a miracle cure for those early stage baby blues and sleep deprivation. You are strong and you are in control, this is your baby and you know what you are doing. And if something goes wrong when you head out; the baby cries, the buggy won't open, just take a moment, remember thousands of parents have been here before and carry on. Nobody is judging you, other mums will likely remember the struggle and give you a reassuring smile or some help.
But most of all, remember that this time doesn’t last forever.
The sleep deprivation, the hormone imbalance, the tears, the anxiety, it all passes. But so do the baby snuggles, the squishy faces, the private moments in the middle of the night whilst they feed, the baby smell and the oxytocin, so cherish them and make them last as long as you can.
You are fantastic and you are a Mum, there is no greater achievement.
Every day is a new start and every moment is a new memory, enjoy every single one.
Another new Mama